****I have to make a disclaimer. I hope you do not think I am getting off topic or rambling as I write about things other than David. The purpose of this blog, from the beginning, was to share with you the light that God is giving us through the life of our little Sunshine (as well as give you medical updates).
Abigail, which is Hebrew in origin, means “fountain of joy”. I have to take the time to tell you that my wife must be who God had in mind, when he decided to bring this name into existence. All who know Abi will agree, for all of you who do not; I hope you are blessed to meet her someday. The Abigail in 1 Samuel 25, is referred to as a woman with great discernment and of a beautiful countenance. When it comes to my wife, I couldn’t have summed her up any better. Let me take a few minutes and tell you about the woman that my children will “rise up and call blessed”.
From the time we were married, I have referred to Abi as my Proverbs 31 woman; and from the time we were married, she has rolled her eyes at me every time I have given her this compliment :). In all seriousness, I have never used this reference as a joke; she meets every qualification that is needed to bear the title. She is a selfless, industrious, kind and godly woman. She is the perfect wife for me, my companion and my dream girl.
Abi is the most gentle and tender spirited person I have ever met. She has a soft spot in her heart for just about everything. While she will tell you that she is a worrier, most of her worrying is sincere concern about other people. Abi is not a blabber mouth, but when she speaks, it is thoughtful and caring. She is one of the hardest working women I have ever known. She is such a hard worker, that I began calling her “little Claudie” a long time ago. This is in reference to her dad, Claude Ewing who is 83, and can out work most 30 year old men.
Abi is a mommy among moms. She is gentle and patient, yet firm with expectations. Lily adores her mother, and loves to stay right under her wing. I have no doubt, that David will receive more benefit from Abigail’s care than he ever will from mine. I tend to have a “no big deal”, “go with the flow” type of attitude. Abi, however, gets things done. While there are expected limitations with children who have Down syndrome, I will not be surprised to find out that David is on the high end of the functioning scale in 20 years. This is because he has a mother who will address every need and every issue, while his daddy will be tempted to say “don’t worry about it”.
Abi and I have been married 10 years. The tenderness and compassion that I have observed during that time, has deepened my understanding of the heart of God. While God is infinity superior to any human quality, I know a little more of what it means for a person to be touched with the feelings of another’s infirmities (Hebrews 4:12). I have seen 1 Corinthians 13, Paul’s great chapter on love, with a clearer view as Abi has lived it out in real life. I have watched a mother, exhaust every ounce of energy she could, to care for a child that needed her help. I am blessed to have a wife who puts my good above my ego. It is rare to find a person who can bless you with correction; I’m married to one. I have never had a reason to doubt that Abi and were on the same team.
I guess, based on the last statement, the final comment I will make, is that Abi and I make a good team. There is no one else I would want to spend 19 days with in Lebonheur. There is no one else I would want to spend my life with on earth.
*** David is continuing to improve in his feedings. We are hoping to come home soon.